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How to communicate on an organic level with children

Creating with children…really any two or more humans creating…is an organic way to open the heart allowing joy to enter.

Draw, sing, dance and tell a story.

Let's dance
Let’s dance-my oldest son, Jeremy

It all seems rather simplistic but many have forgotten the ability to create.

Do you like to draw? Some of you may cringe at the thought while others are at their happiest while moving colors on an object.

Most children nine years old and younger have not reached the intimidation period in their lives. They don’t draw to please others. They can draw simply for happiness.

Their hands move, turning a dot into an image. This image can be scary, funny, sad, cute; the list as endless as the imagination.

An adult comes in contact with a child and there may be an awkwardness or even an irritation. Sit with paper and pencil or better yet, add color to the palate; the wall between the two worlds falls down, crumbles into the table that holds your masterpiece, seeps into the earth beneath you both as the energy around you vibrates in togetherness; a shared joy.

Share your thoughts about what each of you drew and then a smile surrounds you both.

Singing takes a little more courage, especially if the adult does not feel they have a harmonious voice. Ask the child to sing a simple song and see what comes out of them, join in the song if you know it and if you don’t then you can delight the child by asking them to teach it to you. The child will drink you in as if they have known you forever. If the child does not know a song, which is probably the child being shy more than not really knowing a song, then find a simple song and ask them to join in. If you find you are still singing alone then switch songs and ask them to tell you which song they think would win a contest, once they rate the song ask them to join you in the song they picked as the best. Let them have some control in the process, making it a safe space for them.

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