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Still thinking about the movie “Babies”

Ponijao lives in Namibia with her family, including her parents and eight older brothers and sisters. Ponijao’s family is part of the Himba tribe, and lives in a small village with other families.

Mari lives with her mother and father in Shibuya, a busy metropolitan area within Tokyo, at the center of all of the city’s noise and excitement. Mari is an only child and lives a contemporary urban lifestyle.

Born in Mongolia, Bayarjargal, usually called “Bayar” for short, lives with his mother, father, and older brother Delgerjargal (“Degi”) on their small family farm.

Hattie lives in San Francisco, born to very ecological, “green” parents.  Both of Hattie’s parents are equally involved in her day-to-day life, fixing her meals, taking her to play groups, and spending time with her around the house.

What am I talking about?

Why “Babies” of course.

Breastmilk squirted on the babies face to wash the eyes.
A mother licking the babies face then spiting sharply.
A jacuzzi with mother and baby. Baby is not happy.
A river to play in.
A metal bath tub to sit in while a goat drinks from it.

These are all scenes you get to be a part of for a breif hour and 20 minutes.

Some of you might say yuk or gross. I say you need to see the film to understand how it is not gross. In fact is is very amusing.

For me, I would love it to just keep going and going.  I’m looking foward to the DVD with all the extras.

Here’s my take on the above.

Breastmilk has antibiotic properties that helps get rid of infection and also help prevent infection in the first place.

All animals clean their babies by licking them. It is the most natural thing. It is not uncommon in most cultures for a parent to suck out the mucus from an infants nose and spit it out when they are sick. I have been told this from some people I know that lived in Jamaica and other Islands. I know, Yuk you say. But this is normal for them.

My babies bath tub in St John was a metal tub we bought from the hardware store. You see people wash their laundry in them. The tub would sit on the deck and they would bathe outside in the fresh warm air.

Continue reading Still thinking about the movie “Babies”

Babies- the movie

Babies-Loved it, laughed a lot. Soo damn cute with as much depth as you care to give to it. We cared alot and talked about it all day long.

Director Thomas Balmés and producer Alain Chabat – released the Focus Features Film called ‘Babies’.

Balmés and Chabat  worked over  four-years  making of the film.

There is no narration. It leaves it up to you to decide your own thought about what is going on. No conversations either.

There are some songs and dada, mama words.

I am so glad Balmé and Chabat were passionate about this movie. It brought so much joy and laughter to my heart and soul today.

My mother (72) and sister (53) and daughter (15) and son (18) all shared in the joy.

We were all smiling, laughing and I was brought to happy tears.

MTV’s 16 and Pregnant- Breastfeeding

“I was going to breastfeed up till delivery but people kept telling me how painful it was.” Amber relayed to the world after it was mentioned that NO ONE in the group breastfeed their babies.

Six mothers and not one baby got their mothers milk. Or did I hear one of the girls say they did it for two weeks and it was so gross and messy and painful. Farrah did it for one week and said, “It was just too much, I just found it tiring.”

Does two weeks count? I think it does. Here is why I think it counts. 

Nature makes a perfect food for babies.

The first three days your body produces colostrum, it is an immunity builder. It is also a laxative to move out the black tar looking substance called meconium. Then in about three days your milk comes in. A mother makes a ton of it and your breast feel like they weigh a ton. This build-up of pressure last 2-3 days. Your body made enough milk in case you have more than one baby. Nature is trying to make sure everyone gets feed. Then over the next few days, your body adjusts to the amount of milk your baby is drinking by slowing down the milk production if needed. 

You just went thru nine months of pregnancy. I believe you can hold through a few more days of discomfort. The benifits to the baby are well worth it.

Some women do experience pain when the baby latches on. You can lesson this discomfort by preparing your nipples ahead of the birth.  Rubbing your nipples with a washcloth while pregnant and trying everyday in the last few months to see if you can squeeze any milk (really colostrum) out may toughen them up so latching on is not so intense.

So for some women there is discomfort and possible pain with breastfeeding during the first month.

 This is no lie.

What I don’t understand is why is that so scary? Every month a women gets her period she has pain or discomfort, you don’t remove your female organs.  If you play soccer and someone hits your shin, it is painful. You still play soccer.

Does anyone tell you the pleasure you will miss if you don’t breastfeed.

  • You are holding your baby close to your heart while they look you straight in the eye.
  • Prolactin is released in your body along with oxytocin, which causes you to relax and gives you an overall feel-good natural hormonal high.  

The one girl mentions the baby’s poop smells horrible so her husband doesn’t change diapers.

Does she know this is due to the formula? I am not saying breast milk poop does not smell but I am saying there is a big difference in smell and consistency between breastfeed babies poop and formula feed poop. BF poop is way less offensive, it looks like cottage cheese mixed with mustard. Formula poop is way more offensive; it is chalky and can even start the cycle of constipation.  

Does anyone go over all this with the girls? Is there any support to breastfeed for the girls from family or any people they are surrounding themselves around?

Even Dr Drew feels breastfeeding is too difficult.

He says to the world, “People have grave misconceptions about breastfeeding. Ebony chimes in, “I breastfeed about two weeks and what gets people about breastfeeding is …{Dr. Drew interrupts with ‘it hurts’}… it hurts, your boobs are so engorged with milk, like you have to constantly pump and you drip, leaking fluids everywhere. It’s horrible.” Dr Drew goes on to say “It’s pretty complicated: breastfeeding (girls shake their heads in agreement), its more than the romanticized notion people have about it.”

 

These girls are not given any support.

Even when a rare girl feels she would like to breastfeed, she is scared into thinking it will be awful

 

How did we get to this point?

 

What is your experience with breastfeeding?

What were the negative things you heard?

What were the positive things you heard?

What is the craziest thing you heard?

Life after labor: 16-and-Pregnant Finale Special

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Six couples and a psychologist relating to the world in a one year wrap up session.

That is how MTV’s 16 and Pregnant went in their finale Special.

They take you from:

  • finding out they are pregnant
  • past telling everyone
  • through their changing bodies
  • exit the tunnel of birth
  • throw in a few sleepless baby nights and, wha-la, a TV series that is marketable.

The viewer sees a one-hour program of everything the editor decides you get to see.

This is what is going thru the editors mind.

  1. What will hike ratings?
  2. What will keep you glued to the TV and still be there after the commercial?

What effect does this have on the present generation, along with the next generation watching this (not to mention the future generations watching reruns)?

More than I care to think about.

Here is the link if you want to see it on your computer, www.16andpregnant.mtv.com

“Six teenage girls, six pregnancy’s, six babies brought into the world as you watched from home. What was it like to give birth on MTV? How has life changed since the camera’s stopped rolling? What does the future hold for these young women and their children?” this is what Dr. Drew ask while promising to answer it all in this one-hour program.

Did you watch this?

Did you think all the above questions were answered?

Is it even possible to answer the last question?

Let me know what you think, I will write a follow up on breastfeeding on the next post.