A Blessingway is for a soon-to-be-mother to gather other women and celebrate the life inside and the process of becoming a mother. By passing on ceremony’s from Native American wise women of yesterday and wise women of today, a mother is blessed with song, rhythm, and loving hands that at times give massage, braid hair, make bracelets out of beads everyone brings and special words of encouragement along with much more. Food and drink is shared and sometimes henna bellies and henna hands are created. A memory like no other, that is a Blessingway.
I am available to facilitate Blessing Ways. Contact me, Jeanie Williamson, at firstname.lastname@example.org or call me at 239-898-9841.
Hey Jeanie, I’ve decided to have my baby in the water! I was wondering if you knew anything about Hypnobirthing?
I am first certified from Rahima Baldwin’s program called Informed Birth/Parenting. Then years after I was a midwife I took the hybnobirthing-The Mongan Method course with Micky herself. She came to St John in the Virgin Islands.
I wasn’t terribly impressed with this method of teaching childbirth classes but I do believe Hypnotherapy can be beneficial to relieve fear, which allows for more relaxation, which creates space for a natural birth to occur. Tension causes fear which can cause minor complications.
Is there a class nearby that you are thinking of taking? Do you know a good hypnotherapist? Orgasmic Birth DVD- this looks interesting but I haven’t seen it.
She then ask this question:
There’s a class at the birth center, the midwife really recommends me taking it. I have the book and the cd with affirmations and the relaxation that ive been listening to everyday. Do u think i should take it?
Here’s my answer:
Ignorance is bliss for some things… too much knowledge can sometimes induce fear if you seek that knowledge in the wrong places. (By the way, I dis-like the book “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”) I think any relaxation inducing class you choose to take is good.
Letting go is the key.
Just don’t let go of your right to a safe birth. In my mind, safe means no one is going to do an episiotomy or induce labor just because it is routine.
Understand there is no such thing as a natural birth with an epidural. Also understanding there are truly times when an epidural is the right thing to do and that we all love doctors for the special knowledge they know when a natural birth meets a complication. Putting it all in perspective that complications are very rare when the domino effect of unnecessary intervention is not allowed and you have had good prenatal care to rule out complications before birth.
Being smart means surrounded yourself with women you trust.
Which brings us back to letting go and trusting that everything you do is enough when you care, pay attention, breath and circle around to trust and letting go.
I have total trust you already know everything I just wrote.
After buying, at various times, all the ingredients, I now gather them up. Starting with the organic butter that I laid out an hour ago to soften gets mashed with the organic almond butter and organic turbinado sugar. Add organic fair trade vanilla that I special order and have mailed to me, then Dark Chocolate powder, free range eggs and 2 tablespoons of organic milk, whole wheat pastry flour that is hard to find, sea salt and baking soda, slow cooking oats, dark chocolate Ghirardelli chips. I grind the walnuts and all the time I wonder how come, after all this baking, my arm never gets use to all this stirring.
Then I shape them on the cookie sheet, make sure I don’t space them out while baking them. This is hardest part. I sat down to work on a project at my desk and my son ask me if I have the timer on. “Oh shit, I forgot I was cooking.” and I run to take them out of oven just in time.
Then Curtis, my no-where-to-live-take-in teen, comes home from work starving. He ask if he can have a cookie while he is putting together a ham sandwich. He takes a bite of my amazingly healthy cookie, then sets it down on a plate.
I have a cookie and it is delicious. It is crunchy. I always say these are my granola cookies, but oh so much better than any granola bar I get from a store.
My son, Juma loves these cookies and he leaves at the end of the month for college, so I made them today feeling an empty nest virus coming on.
Later in the evening, after my daughter makes tacos for four friends and the family, I clean up the plates, scraping what looks like it could be complete meals into the trash.
I look into the trash can and what do I see, enough turkey meat to make 5 taco’s and what else?….my cookie that Curtis ate minus one bite.
Yep. He did that. They did that.
They don’t care that my money paid for the turkey meat.
And Curtis, who lives with us for the last two years, doesn’t care about anything I said in the first two paragraphs.
There is an added sting when I put so much effort into having healthy food for my family and they just don’t GIVE A SHIT.
Why I love summer.
Everyday I remember this will all be gone in a flash and I will miss them all ridiculously.
Here is my recipe if anyone wants to make them. That is, if you can find someone that appreciates a good crunchy cookie.
Choc-oat-chip granola cookie (warning: Twinkie lovers may not like these)
1/2 c. peanut or almond butter
1/2 c. butter
3/4 c. turbinado sugar
2 T. milk
2 tea. vanilla
1 3/4 c. ww pastry flour
1 tea. baking soda
1/2 tea. salt
1 T. dark cocoa powder
2 1/2 c. Oats
1 c. choc pieces
1 c. nuts
Heat oven to 375º. Beat sugar with both butters. Add eggs, milk, vanilla, beat well.
Add flour, b.soda, salt, cocoa powder and combine with sugar mixture.
Sitr in oats-choc-nuts. Bake 10-12 minutes.
Enjoy and if anyone wants one, break off a piece for them to taste first.