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Listen, Listen to this adorable baby book.

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Crick Crack
Listen Listen
Listen Listen
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Winter’s gone

Barefoot Books has done it again. They have taken Phillis Gershator’s rhythmic verse’s and Alison Jay’s bright playful images and turned hard cardboard into a book your child digs out of the toy bin every night.  Join your child to celebrate the sounds of the seasons, from summer to autumn, and winter to spring.

The second picture has a young boy laying on the grass watching the sky fly by. This provides an opportunity to reflect and share memories of how time fly’s by with your little one. Thoughts like, “I remember the day you came into the world.” “When you were a baby everyone loved your tiny fingers.”

And who doesn’t want to say, “Crick Crack, babies hatch. Peep Peep, Chickens scratch.” knowing these words tickle tiny ears.

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Someday you will have to pay your way. Seriously!

Time to pay your way.
Time to pay your way.

Here’s a conversation I had with my twenty-one year old Senior in college, about how, as soon as he got a job, now or very soon, he could start paying me back the money I put out for him this past year.

Lets back up to the begining of his Junior year. I told him that he needed to get a job. Seriously!

He is a Senior now; still no job and will soon be cut off if no job is had.

Seriously!

I said, “You get a job and I will still help you. If you don’t, then I don’t care if you graduate from college or not. If you don’t care enough about a job to help pay your way then I don’t care enough to pay your way. You give a shit and I will give a shit. Seriously!

He said to me. “When I was growing up you never told me I would someday have to (You pick the last part of this sentence, it is all the same)–pay my own way—support myself—be cut off from your money.. Seriously!?!

Now in all seriousness, my son was joking. But behind the joke was the truth. When he was growing up, I think I did forget to say those very words to him.

We teach our children all sorts of important things to help them grow up, but a really good thing to say to your child, actually many times over, would be these very words:

“Juma, someday you will have to support yourself.”

A bit too vague. Too much room for the imagination.

“Juma, someday when you get older, you will have to support yourself.”

Still a bit loose. Be a bit more visual.

“Juma, someday when you are 16 years old you will have to do something to earn some money. Then when you are 18 you will need to be a bit more serious and earn all of your money for anything that is not food, a roof over your head, health and school related. Then when you are 21 you will have to pay for your roof over your head, food and everything else except school and your health. Then when you graduate you will have to pay for everything that you require in life.

Seriously.”

I think that covers things.

Birth, A Play by Karen Brody

Things like this don’t come along that often. A play about Birth from eight completely different women’s perspectives. I’ve been attending the rehearsals because I will be doing background sounds along with two other women, Christar and Sakura. We are drumming with our djembe’s along with some flute and shakers.

Continue reading Birth, A Play by Karen Brody

Children driving

My 15 year old is driving!
My 15 year old is driving!

My 15 year old has been driving for four months and I still can’t get use to it.

In eight more months I will release her to the open roads. Is this fair to all the other drivers on the road?

It is not her fault, she is a good driver, as good as any 15 year old. But that is just it, she will only be 16 and with that age comes that feeling of “I am indestructible”.

Will she remember to look for pedestrians and bicyclist when she is turning right on red?

Will she ignore her phone when it vibrates or rings?

She is already starting to adjust the mirrors and the seat after she is driving.

She is already finding a good radio station when she is driving.

I make her turn the phone off when she drives with me, will she do that when I am not there?

Will she be able to handle the aggressive driver that looses patience with her inexperience? Until I started helping my teens drive I forgot that some drivers are just learning and to be patient.

Will she get distracted when her friends are in the car?

The list goes on and on.

Another situation of letting go and trusting.

I am now 95% grey.

After four kids, and the last one now fifteen,  I have no hope for the remaining 5%.