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Cardboard Box Office photo’s

Recipe for Cardboard Box Office:

  • Two very bored fun loving parents.
  • One happy go lucky baby.
  • Massive amounts of Cardboard boxes.
  • Camera
  • Mad love for movies
  • A great sense of humor
  • Patients bordering on insanity.

 

Cardboard Box Office blog is a creation of Photo shoots of a family that has recently moved to a new country. I believe they went from New Zealand to Australia. Lilly, Leon, & (baby) Orson are having some mad fun and they are giving you a peek into there world thru photos.

I highly recommend you join them on their weekly postings.

Temple of Doom
Temple of Doom

 

Star Wars
Star Wars

Eyes of India

Women Artisans and their children

“But I am happy when I see the colors of the threads in my hands.  This is also a kind of recreational activity for me. When we sit together all of us and embroider the pieces we sing folk songs and our children play in the courtyard, we don’t need any other entertainment in our life.”

This is a quote I posted from Eyes of India’s blog.

They sell tapestry’s, bedspreads, pillows and more made by artisans and craftsmen from India. It is a good place to shop for presents for loved ones as it supports mothers and children in small villages. Check them out here http://www.eyesofindia.com/  I often find myself in large corporate shops buying everyday items, dish soap and storage bins come to mind, and I am trying to change this to support more individuals.

One of my favorite pieces I bought from them was two tapestry’s made from antique hand beaded wedding dresses. It was a collage of many dresses. I can stare at it for quite a while with my mind thinking about all the time and patience and love that went into each stitch and placing each bead and then the women wearing it on her wedding day.

Do you have a favorite place you shop to support mothers and their families?

Antique wedding dress tapestry
Antique wedding dress tapestry
Wedding dress tapestry
Wedding dress tapestry
Pillow case, I had to stuff
Pillow case, I had to stuff

 

 

Thanksgiving: Be thankful a donkey does not knock you to the ground.

  • Children are innocent
  • Children are non-judgmental
  • Children are resilient to change
  • Children are trusting
  • Children love unconditionally

 

Let’s explore Gratitude.

How many of you are lucky enough to have a child in your life?

For 30 years I woke up almost every day with a child physically present in my life.

My children are still in my life buy the closest lives three hours away.

Here is my life now:

After drumming and dancing for a few hours in my neighborhood park, I was walking back to my house with four various size hoola hoops slung around my neck and side. I’m happily taking each step, feeling content, but sometimes noticing the stares coming from passing cars. I suddenly flash on how much I would make sense to people if I had a string of children following me.

This was an easy task to accomplish over the years. I took it for granted that children would always follow me, always be around wondering what I was doing and eagerly wanting to come along.

I must confess that when I left the house I did not look around to see if anyone wanted to go with me. I am pretty independent and go when and where I want to go. I am also coherent enough to know there is no one in my house to ask anyway. I have not completely ‘lost it’ is what I am saying. But you would think that after 30 years it would feel a bit weird to go play in the park childless.

Most the time I do really well but at that moment, walking from a park with hoops slung on my body, moccasins on my feet, wearing my bright pink cut-up tee shirt, and people staring out their car windows looking for my lost kiddies, I felt the loss of children from my life.

My daughter brought back that shirt from her trip to Cambodia three years ago. It has a beautiful elephant on the front to remind me that she took care of an elephant for a week. She was so excited to give me the shirt but it was tiny and I was 20 pounds heavier. Determined to make the shirt work for me, I looked at tutorials on the computer and with scissors in hand, made my mark on the back, a heart. Still no bigger…so added side cuts…a little better so finished the sleeves with cute slits too.

I put this shirt on this morning cause I was missing her, now here it is, eight thirty at night, and my mind returns to her.

There was no baby donkey that day. Only a male.
There was no baby donkey that day. Only a male.

My mind takes me back in time about 15 years. My daughter and I are walking down our dirt road with a little girl Raina’s age, about five, and her mama who both live in our downstairs rental apartment. We are walking the mile long path that leads to a country store called ‘Love City Groceries’. Love City is the nickname of this Caribbean island called St John. Talking and walking in the hot summer sun, shaded occasionally with large Tamarind tress, we will soon reach the main dirt road. We see a donkey up ahead and think nothing of it. They are wild all over the island. The girls are ahead of us about twenty five feet. They pass the donkey but he starts to follow them. He seems to be showing strong interest in my daughter. She panics and starts to run, the donkey runs, I run, Raina’s little friends mama starts to run. Raina is screaming, I am screaming “Get”, Raina’s little friend’s mama is screaming “Get, Get out of here!” with her hands in punching mode. We are gaining on them, just like the donkey is gaining on my daughter. The donkey dips his head down and with his giant nostrils, he knocks my little girl onto the ground. I am ready to kill this donkey. I see that the other mama is ready to kill this donkey. In slow motion, this giant four legged hoofed monster takes another step toward my baby who is now helpless on the ground. Both mama’s are very close to this monster but not close enough. He walks over her…but does not touch her. No longer in slow motion, he runs away. I pick my little girl up who now has two holes in her polka dot stretch pants along with two dusty skinned knees. She is safe, we all are safe. I get her to laugh when I remind her what a story we have to tell her brothers when we get back home.

And when I get back home from my walk in the park, the only one I have to tell my story to is my computer. Thankfully, I have my computer.

So be grateful to walk with your children. When you just want a moment to finish telling your stories of the day to your friend who is walking with you and all your children combined, and you’re two minute story ends up being 15 minutes with all the “mom-look-at-this” or “mom-watch-me”s”, remember my story of how quickly it all disappears.

Remember that every moment for the rest of your life has a past, present and future to it. Be fully present to the moment at hand, don’t wish it away, no wishes are necessary, time is like a giant tidal wave and grabs everything in the present moment and quickly carries it to the past. Reminisce for a moment, dream for a moment and be grateful for this moment for it carries you to the next.

Be grateful for those children, for you brought them to this moment~~you carry them with you to the next.

 

 

Nutritional Benefits of Moringa Tree.

So why all this interest in Moringa?

 

Peppermint tea with Moringa pod laying nearby.
Peppermint tea with Moringa pod laying nearby.
Lemongrass at my house.
Lemongrass at my house.

I have been hearing about this Moringa for about two years now. A friend of mine grows it and makes lots of products from it. But until the last month or two I really didn’t pay it any mind.

I have been around natural herbs since I was 19 years old. I learned about them on my own, definitely not from any family member. Well I shouldn’t be so definite about that last sentence because my mother did teach me about toothpaste on bug bites and she swears by a bar of soap put near your feet in bed to take ailments out of your body. Can I just add too that my mother usually never swears.

In all those thirty-four years of actively studying herbs you would think I’d be an herb expert but the world is very large and the minute you think you know your stuff about twenty miracle cures pop up. Seriously. It happens so much that when someone says to me, “you need to try this, it will save your life”, my usual response is, “Really!, that’s nice.” As I look for another conversation to connect with. This sounds very rude as I am writing it. Very hoity toity.  But I can’t help it. I did the whole Nature Sunshine thing where lots of people that sold for them use a pendulum to see what herbs you need and how many. My girl that signed me up for NS, Nancy, got a percentage of everything I sold. A check would be issued from the company to her for all my sales. People would leave these sessions, lead by Nancy, needing 25 pills of different stuff and they would be told to do them two to three times a day. That, for some, was 75 pills a day. I was part of all that. I believed in all that…then.

Pau D’Arco, green algae, bottled aloe vera and much more were pushed at high prices. And while I do believe that these nature remedies are beneficial, it is the marketing of them that turns me off.

Now it’s turmeric, milk thistle, guyabano or sour sop (which I actually love).

I believe in eating whole food, food grown without harsh chemicals in nutrient rich soil. I will pay extra for that. Not supplements. I am not a whole foods only purist. I do keep a few things in my cabinet for rainy days, days when my body needs an extra boost. I take Kelp to hopefully pull some of the heavy metals from my body due to the toxic world we live in, and I like flax seed oil just to keep me oiled up, so to say, in my wise sage years. A little acidophilus to counter all the years I was on constant antibiotics as a kid, first for asthma and then for slight acne. Those are my little boost up, so to say.

So why am I writing my second post in a week about Moringa?

It was brought to my house by a friend on one of our juice Meetups I do monthly. She had been to FGCU (Florida Gulf Coast University) food forest weekly Friday tours and picked some of the leaves off one of their many Moringa Trees planted by the students and teachers for their permaculture food forest. She told us about all the goodness of this plant and left me a good amount of leaves. She had went to so much trouble to gather, clean and carry them to my home that I didn’t have heart to compost all the leaves that were left behind so I broke them free of the stems, set them in a large bowl on my kitchen table with lots of air flow and sunshine and they dried out very nicely, leaving lots of green color with them.

This led me to started making tea, lots of tea. Every time anyone comes over they have a pot of Moringa, homegrown lemongrass and peppermint tea combination that I think taste yummy. No need for sugar due to the mild flavor that is created.

The nutritional components found in this product are overwhelming. It contains high amounts of vitamins, minerals, fiber, and protein. Of course you don’t get fiber or protein with the tea but you do get the vitamins and minerals. The leaves can be added to your food the same way you add parsley or basil. Moringa Oleifera is used throughout the world as a food (leaves eaten whole) due to high nutrition content. It insures pregnant women and children will not be undernourished.

The Moringa tea is reported to be anti-inflamatory according to a study I read in GreenMedInfo. Look at this page for lots more scientific facts about moringa.

I will end this post with the quotes from a website I found by a Dr Julian Hakim, MD. It a supplement site and as previously said, I am always a bit leary on these but there are some good things to note.

The Moringa plant provides a rich and rare combination of zeatin, quercetin, β- sitosterol, caffeoylquinic acid and kaempferol. In addition to its compelling water purifying powers and high nutritional value, M. oleifera is very important for its medicinal value.

Various parts of this plant such as the leaves, roots, seed, bark, fruit, flowers and immature pods act as cardiac and circulatory stimulants, possess antitumor, antipyretic, anti epileptic, anti inflammatory  anti ulcer  antispasmodic, diuretic, antihypertensive, cholesterol lowering, antioxidant, antidiabetic, hepatoprotective, antibacterial and antifungal activities, and are being employed for the treatment of different ailments in the indigenous system of medicine, particularly in South Asia.

Moringa Oleifera is one of those products that has been used in many different ways to treat conditions such as anemia, arthritis, asthma, cancer, constipation, diabetes, epilepsy, heart conditions, hypertension, kidney stones, thyroid disorders, and infections.

  • Among its numerous medicinal uses are:

  • Antibacterial and antifungal activities

  • Antihypertensive, diuretic and cholesterol lowering activities

  • Antispasmodic, antiulcer and hepatoprotective activities

  • Antitumor and anticancer activities

It has water purifying properties.

He also notes this on his site.

According to an analysis of 100 grams of the edible portion of Moringa oleifera the various parts of this plant have been shown to contain as much of the following water-soluble vitamins: 2.6mg of vitamin B1 (thiamine), 20.5mg of vitamin B2 (riboflavin), 8.2mg of vitamin B3 (nicotinic acid), and 220mg of vitamin C (ascorbic acid). In addition, this same portion of edible product contains as much of the following fat-soluble vitamins: 16.3mg of vitamin A, 113mg of vitamin E (alpha-tocopherol acetate); as much as 423mg of the lipotropic element, Choline; 19.2 grams of fiber; and several key minerals: 2003mg of Calcium, 368mg of Magnesium, 204mg of Phosphorus, 1324mg of Potassium, 3.1mg of Copper, 28.2mg of Iron, and 870mg of Selenium.

In other words, it contains 3 times more iron than spinach, more calcium than 6 cups of milk, 4 times the potassium in a banana, 7 times the vitamin C in an orange and more protein than yogurt.

Where is your office?

Mother Earth Parenting's office
Mother Earth Parenting’s office

One of my many office’s.

Does anyone else do this? Set up an office in every inch of your living space?

Basic office needs: purse with credit cards to pay bills. Magnifying glasses to see. Bills, and Fresh smoothie made with organic froxen strawberries, bannanas, and sweet cheeries, coconut milk and almond milk. that’s it. Nothing else. Opps, I forgot…computor.

Power Tea with Moringa

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Ingredients 

Here is one of my favorite teas. Homegrown Lemongrass, Moringa from the food forest at Florida Gulf Coast University, and Peppermint tea from Celestial (I have some growing but not quite ready to pick from it) and non-chlorinated water.

Chlorine turns into a more harmful compound when boiled so very important to use filtered water.

The Moringa tea is reported to be anti-inflamatory according to a study I read in GreenMedInfo. It is used throughout the world as a food (leaves eaten whole) due to high nutrition content. More on this on a coming post.

Lemon Grass cam be used as a tea or the stem can be cut up and added for flavoring to many dishes.

Peppermint, well lets just say…Yum!

Steeping.

Bring water to boil, turn off and add tea~       Steep 20 minutes
Moringa pkg tea
Moringa pkg tea from Morinaspirit,com

This packaged tea is made by a dear friend and her husband, Daryl and Gene Salerno.

Go to their website and check it out.

ingredients and website
ingredients and website

 

October is the month for Durga.

 Mother and Child" - Avijit Banerjee
Mother and Child” – Avijit Banerjee

Yes I know October passed, luckily 13 days ago, which is the point. Thirteen represents good luck. There are thirteen moons in a year. The Lunar calendar (13 months) was changed to a solar calendar (12 months). Why? Some believe to take power away from women.  After the fall of the matriarchal society, it was the patriarchal society, knowing it symbolized the sacred feminine, that created stories of doom related to this number. They will tell you events of death and destruction that happen on that day. Judas, the betrayer of Jesus, was the thirteenth at the table, Apollo 13…need I say more?, some planes crashed on the 13th (never mind all the other plane crashes on other days), some Norse legend about 12 Gods at a Banquet and a next one (13th God) came and killed one of the other Gods, starting lots of natural disasters.

Men needed to create fear with the number thirteen to squelch the feminine power. And for most people, it worked.

So it seems fitting that thirteen days after the month long celebration of the Goddess  Durga, the mother of the universe, I would add a post about her.

 Dervi Durga

She is believed to be the power behind the work of creation, preservation, and destruction of the world. This confuses some. How can she create and destroy? Well…she creates life and destroys evil.

The word “Durga” in Sanskrit means a fort, or a place which is difficult to overrun. This represent a safe house to me. A place where others and myself can find peace.
Another meaning of “Durga” is “Durgatinashini,” which literally translates into “the one who eliminates sufferings.” Thus, Hindus believe that goddess Durga protects her devotees from the evils of the world and at the same time removes their miseries. I like this. I want to be more Durga-ish and protect all my children from miseries. With four of my own and four more of Starbo’s, this is a lot of miseries. Plus all earths children feel like mine some days. I want to protect them all.
The lion represents power, will and determination. Mother Durga riding the lion symbolises her mastery over all these qualities. Wahoo…bring on the lion.

I want to be more Durgaya-ish. She listens to her devotees and attends to their needs. I do find I listen more intently these days. Being in a place of service is good for me and humanity. It is a win win situation.

ॐ Namah Durgaya

‘Letting Your Children Grow Up’ Mantra

Blue throat chakra, green heart chakra
Blue throat chakra, green heart chakra

Do six sun salutations to allow your chakras to open.

Close your eyes and cross your arms over your chest and gently hold your throat with both open hands. You are opening your throat chakra and your heart chakra at the same time. You are healing your throat chakra and heart chakra simultaneously.

Repeat these words, letting your own words mix in with the words below. Allow words to flow. Let your own words take over if you want. Trust your instincts and let what needs to be said be said, what needs to be felt to be felt.

Trust !!!

I am trust, I am love, I am perfect vibration, I am whole, I am strong, I am able.

My children are love, My children are perfect vibration, My children are strong, My children are able.

Continue reading ‘Letting Your Children Grow Up’ Mantra

‘Birth’-in a non-perfect world.

•♫ ♪♫•”Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit.” •♫ ♪♫•

Squatting with fingers touching the earth, the baby-belly mama rises while cradling her arms in a rocking motion, moving hands in swirling motions near her throat chakra, clapping the right hand reaching to the sky, all the while chanting, “Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit.”

A birthing woman is sitting under the stars, breathing air that connects her to the earth and sky, intuitively knowing the bodies blood-water connects her to the fetus that is laboring along with her, and trusting both baby and mother spirit to fuel the fire needed to endure the path to delivery. The mother rocks her body, moving through light contractions. The wave of intensity is building, building–till the pushing urge is so strong that all her focus moves her body to bears down, moving her baby gently into the world to share the earth’s breath. The never ending spiral of life~creating more spirals.

In a perfect world.

Which does exist.

The world of birth compares to the world of snowflakes.

“Wow really?” you may ask, “in what way?”

Simply in that no two are alike. This variable state creates the unexpected. The unexpected at times creates unwanted results, these results can cultivate future fear. This often leads to controlling Birth to get a more satisfactory result. This control contradicts the natural birthing process. Control interrupts the innate rhythmic flow of a birthing body.

This forced flow will still produce the birth of a baby. This forced flow can, at times, save the life of a baby.

Sometimes.

But there has been great loss in this process of forced birth.

If you look at numbers, the lives saved by intervention is not equal to the lives lost. The United States has one of the worst infant mortality rates for an industrialized country. The cesarean rate is out of control. Just look at the world health organization for your statistics. The facts are easily found once you question the process.

If the facts are so easily found then why are so many robotically moving toward controlled birth?

Simple…Fear rules over facts. The majority will not even question the safety of what they are being told is normal and safe. They will simply do what everyone else is doing. If they do question their doctor, they are told that all these interventions make it safer for the baby and them.

The fact is, it does not make it safer.

Continue reading ‘Birth’-in a non-perfect world.

Ruby’s Baby Brother-Book Review

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Ruby’s Baby Brother.

by Kathryn White

A little girl’s imagination takes flight to help her process all the scary things about a new brother being brought home for the first time. She gathers her resources together to prepare for his arrival: a magic wand for safety, a space rocket to send him far away.

Suddenly, the unexpected happens, she falls in love with his soft tiny hands.

Imagination changes purpose. Now it brings play and protection into both their lives.

What a fun book this is. The imagination can soar with adorably warm and funny illustrations that Miriam Latimer creates with every turn of the page.

A big added bonus for breastfeeding advocates is a picture of mom nursing her little boy. This image is hard to find in children books.

I love that the publisher of this book, Barefoot Books, started as a home business back in the early nineties. They have an ambassador program where parents can have their own independent business selling books. Check them out here.