Alan Cohen is a leader in the fields of personal growth, inspiration, holistic health, human relations, and achievement of work/life balance.
He wrote the book “The dragon doesn’t live here anymore”.
He has a newsletter. This is a quote from it:
“In February we celebrate Valentine’s Day, honoring lovers and relationships. While relationships have their romantic aspects, they also serve as powerful teaching tools. One of the best ways to learn about yourself is to be intimate with someone else.
(Intimacy: Into me see.) Your relationship partner serves as a mirror for your beliefs and attitudes about yourself. He or she is not simply someone outside you, but more of a representation of attitudes that live inside you. If you see beauty and love in your partner, that is what you see in yourself. If you see faults and problems, again you are meeting yourself. Wherever you go, there you are.”
I love it as it is so true. When I hear others complain about their spouse, they only see one side, their side. There are two sides to every story. This quote takes that to a whole other level, turn yourself inside out and you will have two more sides to that two sided story. Which now gives you four sides. The side from outside him, outside her, inside him and inside her. Lets make it simple and realize we all need to work on our own junk and the junk that keeps following you around, because it is not really outside you, it’s not really only someone else that has the problem, the problem is inside you too. Clean house every chance you get. Having a relationship can help you clean house a little faster.
Share your stories of what you have learned, what has helped you grow as a person, from being in a relationship?